how we are

this is how we are. closed in. focused on the things we do. everyone minding his own business. we hardly are within ourselves. we are closed up. we do that out of fear being involved into something else. something that might take more effort to do, than a usual "comfort" state of being.
if a woman'd fallen on the floor, in the first few moments, no one would have stand up to help her. in the first moments, that is. because we react instinctively. and the first thought isn't "help her", but "let someone more adequate help her" this is the so-called "distribution of responsibility" in psychology. and it is not a judgemental statement from me. just the fact, that it is given a name, makes it something generally accepted, hence no bad feelings about it. but it is still truth.
but really, instead of being within oneself, people choose to lock our selves up. the difference between minding our own business and being attentive of oneself is the direction to which we open. the latter being open on outside, the first inside.
we could tell the difference, if we'd be faced with it. but it is such a rarity, we are taking it for a part of mysticism. the people opened on outside, but being attentive of one selves are taken as a mystical personalities, like guru, shaman or wizard.
i watched Australia, yesterday. a great movie. a movie that is open on outside but very concentrated on itself. it gives a lot. in colour, story, music, photography, character development. and it stays focused by never giving in to the cliche, never exceeding into kitsch. if you have the time, watch it. it is true, this one is captivating. saying that for a movie lasting almost 3 hours is a great risk. but i am taking it. i have not been so touched by a movie in a long time.
this is how we people should be. open. giving and receiving the same amount we passed on forward. instead, we claim things that aren't ours, we don't ask for them, we talk about others without knowing the facts, except for our own insecurities. we choose to go when we should stay and we can't stay in peace when we are on our way. always somewhere else in mind, always someone else in state.
today, i stopped. i watched him in the eyes and smiled. and he smiled back at me. kindly.

was the best thing i did in this year. what a great conclusion of it was.


happy new year to you all. who ever you are.

:D